It is open secret to everyone that a person that can be more hurt when attacked by a trusted person than when attack by a person he does not care about. Trusting a person is difficult for some but easy for others. What we perceive of a person is very important for him/her to be trusted.
We can develop a trust naturally by talking to the person and then knowing their beliefs and thought process. It is sometimes difficult to trust a person because some people tend to have some pre conceived notions regarding him/her and that is what you end up perceiving. But when you talk to the person you come to know some different side of him/her. Then your mind starts contradicting both sides of the coin. Now you don’t know whether to trust the person or not to.
Well here comes the part where we all fall apart, we end up losing trust in the person. This often leads you to ignoring the person and often you miss out on things. You might be happy with this but what about that person who just developed trust in you. Now he/she does not understand what is going on. This trust is developed into hatred. Hatred is dangerous as it creates a mental image of a person even before you interact with the person.
If you think the person has betrayed you then the best thing to do will be is to talk with the person and check out what exactly went wrong. Most of the times it is common misunderstanding that leads to hatred. But as you trust that person, he/she deserves a chance to explain what the problem was.
It is quite difficult to convince such a person. You can make friends with foes you did not care about. But it is almost impossible to make friends with a person you one trusted and has for some reason betrayed you
good writing anubhav.....but i dont agree with your last line as some personal experiences proves it wrong....though it has been quite long now,i dont think friendship and relation has to be completely relied on trust to move forward with him/her..well, offcourse, at the end of the day, its a person's choice!
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